11) Is there still a double standard regarding sexual activitiy of boys versus girls? Do teenagers still talk in terms of "Nice girls" versus "malandi girls"? Why is there no male counterpart to a "malandi"?

Double standards between the sexual activities of boys and girls still exists. For one, men have been given more sexual freedom than women. Traditionally, men and women have been subjected to different "rules" guiding sexual behavior. Women were stigmatized for engaging in any sexual activity outside of heterosexual marriage, whereas for men such behavior was expected and rewarded. Boys had to "sow their wild oats," but girls were warned that a future husband "won't buy the cow if he can get the milk for free" (Crawford & Unger, 2000). Women were faced with a Madonna-whore dichotomy: They were either pure and virginal or promiscuous and easy. Double standards regarding the sexual activities of boys vs. girls is highly subjective, don't you think?

Yes. Teenagers still talk in terms of "nice girls" and "malandi girls" But what I notice nowadays, some of the "malandi girls" are the more reserved type. Those "nice girls", they always take you by surprise, the are the ones you expect the least to engage in this activity, but in tagalog, "NASA LOOB ANG KULO." There are those people that are just really expressive, more vulgar on their choice of words but they are the ones who are more careful. For me, there isn't such a thing as a male counterpart of "malandi."

I would jus like your comments on this.. tnx..

Jordana Layno
BSN III-B

yes there is still a double standard that exists between boys and girls. as a matter of fact, i'm one of the people who still uses the terms malandi and nice girls. but for me, the word MALANDI does not only pertains to girls, it also pertains to all boys. though i have no souce to support that, it's just my opinion.

people expects more to women than in males. women must be more reserved and "delekadesa" as what other people would say while men are expected to be what they are, to be out-going and engage in sexual intercourse for their own desires. and from this fact, i must say that men should respect women even more and not force sexual acts to those who doesn't want to.

Yes, i do agree to that...... I'll base my opinion on what i observed nowadays: those malandi girls were just an outward manifestations of their inner feelings, and those nice girls were the shocking ones, and based on a private talk to a friend I know ("lets maintain privacy, i won't say the name"), she already did engaged in a sexual activity....
From what i know, there is a male counterpart of that, they are the one who runs after a girl who are hard to get....^^, they try more than serenading or courting the girl to obtain a sweet yes....
Cerro, Jay Mark M., BSN III-B